Anxiety Issues/School/Public places

GirlInBlue · 02-08-2010, 04:38 AM

Along with my many different problems, anxiety is one of the biggest.
It is currently part of the reason I am not in school.
I am on homebound which is where a teacher comes out to your house and gives you your lessons and what not because you are not medically capable of being in school.
I've been in and out of school ever since 7th grade, and I am currently a Junior in highschool.
It's been a long, hard, road and it seems no matter what I do, I can't get over my phobias of being in school. Everything about school just terrifies me.
The loud noises, all the people, not being able to get out of if I need to, the stress, just everything.
It's not just school, it's any public place with a lot of people.
When I go to Wal-Mart I get dizzy and a headache sometimes because my eyes are constantly darting every which way. It's a very tiring process, just going to a store wears me out.

I've always been a very anti-social person, even as a child.
and I agree with my counselor, it is very important that I get social experience, especially if I want to go to college.
I mean if I can't make it through high school, then can I make it through college?
I am on medications, one of which is for anxiety, and it generally calms me down, but when it comes to being social, it would seem nothing can calm me down.
Sometimes I get so upset, I cry, and my stomach gets upset which there in turn makes me throw up.

I just want to be able to go into a public place and not care if people are looking at me, not care if there are tons of people around, not care if there are loud noises about.
I'm just really tired.

Any advice would be helpful, thanks!

dragonfly · 02-08-2010, 10:09 AM

Perhaps you could start by thinking of something you would like to do which would involve being around people. If you went swimming for example there would be people around the place but it is unlikely that anybody would want to engage you in a half hour conversation. After a while when you felt comfortable being around people in the pool you could say 'hi' to one or two people and so on. Perhaps you could talk to your therapist about getting some CBT to reduce your social anxiety...It really works. Good luck

GirlInBlue · 02-08-2010, 04:01 PM

That more than likely what is going to have to happen, just because I am so terrified.
Thanks for the advice!!!
:]

dragonfly · 02-08-2010, 04:49 PM

Just wanted to add things will get better for you, I mean the anxiety will reduce you've just got to stick at it and most importantly be kind to yourself! Reward your attempts to overcome the anxiety.

GirlInBlue · 02-08-2010, 10:37 PM

Thanks for your support!
I am trying my best to get better, maybe it will pay off sometime soon :]

StarrGirl · 02-09-2010, 04:50 AM

Keep at it, and it WILL pay off. I went through the same thing and dropped out. (I kick myself sometimes because I should have tried harder then.)

GirlInBlue · 02-09-2010, 10:27 AM

Yeah, sometimes it all doesn't seem worth it.
But I know that it will be someday, so that's pretty much the only thing that keeps me going.
That, and my boyfriend and family.
I am lucky to have such great support!

02-08-2010, 04:38 AM	#1
GirlInBlue Hydrogen Valued Member (most of you :P) Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Podunk, TN Age: 17 Posts: 23	Anxiety Issues/School/Public places Along with my many different problems, anxiety is one of the biggest. It is currently part of the reason I am not in school. I am on homebound which is where a teacher comes out to your house and gives you your lessons and what not because you are not medically capable of being in school. I've been in and out of school ever since 7th grade, and I am currently a Junior in highschool. It's been a long, hard, road and it seems no matter what I do, I can't get over my phobias of being in school. Everything about school just terrifies me. The loud noises, all the people, not being able to get out of if I need to, the stress, just everything. It's not just school, it's any public place with a lot of people. When I go to Wal-Mart I get dizzy and a headache sometimes because my eyes are constantly darting every which way. It's a very tiring process, just going to a store wears me out. I've always been a very anti-social person, even as a child. and I agree with my counselor, it is very important that I get social experience, especially if I want to go to college. I mean if I can't make it through high school, then can I make it through college? I am on medications, one of which is for anxiety, and it generally calms me down, but when it comes to being social, it would seem nothing can calm me down. Sometimes I get so upset, I cry, and my stomach gets upset which there in turn makes me throw up. I just want to be able to go into a public place and not care if people are looking at me, not care if there are tons of people around, not care if there are loud noises about. I'm just really tired. Any advice would be helpful, thanks! __________________ And you could have it all... My empire of dirt...

02-08-2010, 04:01 PM	#3
GirlInBlue Hydrogen Valued Member (most of you :P) Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Podunk, TN Age: 17 Posts: 23	That more than likely what is going to have to happen, just because I am so terrified. Thanks for the advice!!! :] __________________ And you could have it all... My empire of dirt...

02-08-2010, 10:37 PM	#5
GirlInBlue Hydrogen Valued Member (most of you :P) Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Podunk, TN Age: 17 Posts: 23	Thanks for your support! I am trying my best to get better, maybe it will pay off sometime soon :] __________________ And you could have it all... My empire of dirt...

02-09-2010, 10:27 AM	#7
GirlInBlue Hydrogen Valued Member (most of you :P) Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Podunk, TN Age: 17 Posts: 23	Yeah, sometimes it all doesn't seem worth it. But I know that it will be someday, so that's pretty much the only thing that keeps me going. That, and my boyfriend and family. I am lucky to have such great support! __________________ And you could have it all... My empire of dirt...

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02-08-2010, 10:09 AM	#2
dragonfly Oxygen Valued Member (most of you :P) Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 237	Perhaps you could start by thinking of something you would like to do which would involve being around people. If you went swimming for example there would be people around the place but it is unlikely that anybody would want to engage you in a half hour conversation. After a while when you felt comfortable being around people in the pool you could say 'hi' to one or two people and so on. Perhaps you could talk to your therapist about getting some CBT to reduce your social anxiety...It really works. Good luck

02-08-2010, 04:49 PM	#4
dragonfly Oxygen Valued Member (most of you :P) Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 237	Just wanted to add things will get better for you, I mean the anxiety will reduce you've just got to stick at it and most importantly be kind to yourself! Reward your attempts to overcome the anxiety.

02-09-2010, 04:50 AM	#6
StarrGirl Lithium Valued Member (most of you :P) Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Under a rug. Posts: 145	Keep at it, and it WILL pay off. I went through the same thing and dropped out. (I kick myself sometimes because I should have tried harder then.)